Monday, October 12, 2009

If you want to know the truth....

Look what I found? A gem I forgot to publish last month..........

Just ask your kids. If you can't handle the truth, don't ask.

Trust me on this one if you haven't found this out for yourself.

Yesterday while lounging by the pool I was complaining about my weight (I'm ridiculous. I know. Weight isn't important. It shouldn't be a focus. Blah, blah, blah).

"I haven't been to the gym once this summer. I'm pretty sure I've gained 5 lbs. I think I have more cellulite than I had before I stopped exercising."

Or course, the answer I was hoping for from my husband was, "what are you talking about? You look great. Fantastic even. You'd never know you've had 5 kids. Don't be silly."
Even if it wasn't true.

What I got was my child pipping in with the truth before my husband had the chance to fib to me.

"Um, mom? I did notice that your legs look a little flabby".
Um, Thank you very little?

See? Lesson learned.

Note to self: If you can't handle the truth, don't ask. Don't fish. Just do something about it.

One of these days, I WILL get back to the gym. In the meantime, I'll be sure to be fully and completely self conscious when I'm in a bathing suit. How's that for the truth?

P.S Don't worry. My daughter assured me today that my legs look less flabby in this bathing suit than the one I was wearing yesterday.

Thanks? I think?

Note to self. THROW out the bathing suit I was wearing yesterday.

50 comments:

Rebecca said...

I just love it. I've had similar conversations. Anna asked me one day, while patting on my chest, how I had "two tummys?"

Lolli said...

Yes, I've had that kind of conversation before. I distinctly remember my 8 year old son saying, "Mom, I think that swimming suit is too small. I can see your bottom hanging out of it." Oh, yikes!

Mayhem and Moxie said...

Honestly, if those blog friends of yours would stop harassing you so much, you could actually probably get to the gym once in a while.

Who are those people you hang out with anyways?

xoxo

Robin said...

Ouch. Reminds me of the time my daughter asked why my (very NON-pregnant) tummy was so big.

That was the week I finally got serious about losing weight.

Live.Love.Eat said...

Uh, yeah, I actually got the same thing when I was putting Tristan to bed last night. Ironic: Huge wake up call when going to bed. Hah.

Thank God I already had it in my head to start back to exercising today because I have been slacking majorly.

Melissa, Multi-Tasking Mama said...

My dear sweet children lovingly refer to my curves as my "flubber". Outta the mouth of tweens, I suppose ;)

Shell said...

My four year old actually grabbed a bit of my stomach roll and asked what that was and if he was going to grow like that and that he hoped not b/c it was really weird-looking. Ouch.

Blair said...

from the mouths of babes! don't worry about it, i'm sure you looked fab!

Amy @ Six Flower Mom said...

This is what I love about children -- HONESTY!

Erin, Nick and Merrick said...

Sounds like my son was there.

Kristina P. said...

I'm so glad I don't have kids to tell me how fat I am!

brunger bunch said...

I am not sure what you are talking about! You look great! I did have one of my primary kids tell me that my legs were chubby. (I didnt even ask!!)

Susie said...

Kids don't have a filter so yes, don't ask and they won't tell:-)

T Rex Mom said...

Classic. My hubby says there is no way of answering that question safely without offending the one asking so we have a rule around the to never ask!

Maybe a new swim suit, though. A little shopping always cheers me up!

Swirl Girl said...

I was always amazed that children don't see overweight in their own parents -only in other people.

if you say that long enough, you'll start to believe it!

Jen said...

you are so right, don't ask if you don't want to know the real answer.

our b life said...

Sometimes I ask to get the truth because my husband wont tell me. Then sometimes, I regret it!!

girlytwins said...

Ha. Gotta love the truth of children :)

sassy stephanie said...

True dat. My now 9 yr old told her teacher at 4 "your butt is much bigger than my mom's".

Eliza said...

Baby steps...I'm going twice a week and plan on working my way up. Even if I don't succeed at losing those extra pounds I DO feel a lot better about myself!


My new blog is up, would love to have you visit!

Bina said...

Hopped over from Alicia's More Than Words...and am SO happy to have found another family with five kids! We have five also...aged 14 to 8...and I LOVE this entry!! I can relate...and skinny is over-rated...believe you me! :)
Hugs to you today...
Bina

Bina said...

...and in looking further, I see that you are also a redhead...with little redheads!!??!!?? Oh - the world is a wonderful place today! ;)

Grand Pooba said...

Haha! That is so funny in a not-so-funny kind of way :o)

Kelly said...

Angie,
OH MY STARS!! I one time had Jenna (at two no less) tell me I looked "Faaah ow ow..." She was saying fat and trailed off. (((HUGS)))

T~T said...

I don't care about the weight - just he wearing a bathing suit still - it's fricking 42 degrees here!!

Rhonda said...

I'll trade your flab for mine. We'll do the swap in Vegas in FOUR SLEEPS!!!!!

Who's excited? lol

Yaya said...

Gotta love the honesty of kids.... ;)

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

Yep, that suit would be gone! oh, and my hubby told me that "I'm less flabby when I am doing weight training/running than just running." Um, thanks.

Alicia said...

Oh, that is sooo true about kids! They do not hesitate to tell you how it is!! And, they give you a complex at the same time. Great!

Liz (Loving Mom 2 Boys) said...

ha ha ha ha ha....my boys are still too young to notice that mommy isn't perfect - i fear the day they learn better!!! That is too funny...

mommaof4wife2r said...

my girlies say the craziest things...b told me about 4 months ago that if my belly was gonna be so big it should have a baby growing in it again...i started back to the gym!!!

Justine said...

ROFLMAO! I'm sorry to laugh at your humilations, but... well no. I'm not sorry. It's damn funny. Especially because you think 5 pounds would make a difference in your leg flab. Heeheeheeeee

Justine :o )

Erin said...

Oh don't you love Childhood innocence and honesty? I will remember not to ask my boys those questions...EVER!

Cecilia said...

I'm sure you look great! But if you're ever in UT and feel like exercising and partying at the same time, come to my Zumba class! I've lost 22 pounds since May just doing ZUMBA! It's so much fun! I love teaching and helping people loose weight!
If you don't think you're going to be in UT anytime soon just go to www.zumba.com and find an instructor in your area ;D You'll love it!!!!

confused homemaker said...

Ouch, sounds like something my son would say. He'd mean it as a way to "help" but OUCH!

Lula! said...

Sometimes I pretend that I've had 5 children, and that 2 of them are monoamniotic.

But then I look at you and realize...nah, I'm just fat. And she's just fabulous.

And I still love you. But I win. As I have more cellulite. The end.

Twisted Cinderella said...

Yup, kids are nothing if not honest when you ask them questions like that. Not good for the ego

Mama Kat said...

Lula's comment is awesome.

I only talk about how pretty I am to my kids and they have no choice, but to agree to everything I say lest they forfeit dessert.

scrappysue said...

a very quick note from work (ugh!) to let you know your package arrived - thank you so much angie! will leave unopened until the 26th

thanks again!

Stephanie said...

Kids say the darndest things - it's true!

Amy said...

Oh I think I feel this way sometimes. I need to work out but it seems to go down hill at times. I hope you are having a great week. Have fun in Vegas. I hope they do this again so I can join in. This year I am at my parents and can't.

blueviolet said...

You're going to thank them later in life. For real. My kids have saved me many a faux pas in fashion.

Carissa(GoodnCrazy) said...

How funny... I think... wait I have same issue.

Since starting FC my world is a whirl of visits and more and more and other hoo haw.. my excuse? EXHAUSTION.

CC said...

Ugh. I try to keep my mouth shut around the kids regarding this kind of thing. Because the husband? He's pretty kind. :)

Happy said...

Seriously? I see your profile pic and yes, I realize you aren't in a bathing suit, but still...I can't imagine that you have many issues in the weight department. And you definetely do not look like a mother of five.

So. I say bleh to the gym. Have a hamburger instead!

But very funny post!

Honey Mommy said...

This is why I have been training my boys to say things like, "Mommy, your hair looks so pretty!".

Elaine A. said...

I posted about my body image today too. Us women just always struggle with this don't we? Why, I just don't know... P.S. You look awesome from the pics I've seen of you Angie and someday the kids will be adults too... ; )

Life with Kaishon said...

I know JUST what you mean! : )

Shannon said...

Totally true, if you don't want to hear the truth, don't ask...at least when your kids are present. Haaaa!

Jenners said...

Oh dear. I bet she didn't know what flabby meant. I'm sure she meant "tan and toned."